出路

今天在 "Adoptive Families" 雜誌中看到一個為領養父母解答疑難的信箱，有一段很有智慧及很明白我們的安慰說話。事緣有一個領養媽媽雖然與兒子相處很開心，亦以為自己已 get over 了不育的陰霾，但好友最近生了 bb 突然令她不開心。信箱夫人如此說：

"It might help you to know that grief does not have to end with complete acceptance. Our losses become a part of us, and they may surface at moments that surprise us. This does not mean that you are jealous and want to become pregnant or that your son is not the love of your life. It means you are HUMAN. Try to ACCEPT your feelings as normal, and I'm sure you'll find that you have positive feelings about your friend's baby, too."

接納自己的感受，因為我們正是人，有人的感受及情感。這才是我們的出路。